Harassment

COs are sometimes harassed because of their beliefs. After all, others in the military often feel you are saying that the military and all who belong to it are morally wrong. They don't like to hear that. They believe in what they are doing just as you do. While some people will show respect, others will see you as trying to get out of an agreement you made to serve. Some will think you are a coward.

Your command might actually view you as a "morale problem." This might lead to harassment, too. You might even be given the worst jobs or duty assignments. You might be disciplined more than you were before.

Some people in your unit might just avoid you. This could make your life hard and lonely. But if you show respect for others, listen to what they have to say, and politely explain your opinions and beliefs, others might return that respect. Some people in your unit might decide to become COs because of your example. There are lots of people in the military who would be COs if they knew about the provisions and thought they could qualify.

The important thing is to be strong in your beliefs. Don't back down or let yourself make compromises you can't live with. If the harassment seems unjust, you have a right to complain. Get the help of your counselor, who can help you file a complaint or request a new assignment.

Also, try to keep in contact with someone who agrees with your beliefs. Having someone to talk to in hard times can be helpful. You can talk to your counselor, or you can look other places. Is there a Quaker meeting, Church of the Brethren, or Mennonite Church nearby? They might support you even if you aren't very religious. A local peace group can also be very helpful. If you're stationed in Europe, peace groups there will be glad to support you. And COs stationed on ships have sometimes gotten together with other COs (or people who were thinking about conscientious objection) to form discussion groups.

Outside support can be very important. Not only will it help you through rough times, but if the military knows that someone outside is concerned about your case, they may treat you more fairly.

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